Convincing speech is easy

What words and phrases make our speech insecure and is there an alternative to them - we will deal with Work.ua. And unspoken rules state the following:

    Refuse all possible forms of denial - speak positively. Speaking of negatives, you go a long way and along the way you can cause unpleasant associations. It is necessary to rephrase all statements with “not”: “This is a great thought” sounds much more convincing than “A thought is really good”. It is especially detrimental to start the answer with a denial: the categorical “No, I do not agree” instead of “Yes, I really have a different opinion” repels and speaks of a final and disappointing decision.
    Say “and” instead of “but” and “nevertheless”, as they cross out everything that was said earlier. Judge for yourself: "You did it well, and if you ..." and "Yes, you did it well, but it would be better ...".
    Use the word “already” instead of “yet” because “already” turns little into much. It would seem that we are talking about the same thing, but the intonation is palpable: “You have already done half” and “You have only done half”.
    Replace the words “only” and “simply” in a speech - these are words that express uncertainty. “This is my opinion” and “I only speak my opinion” - these are opposite opinions.
    Avoid using the constructs “should”, “would”, “if”. The subjunctive mood is a prime example of evasion. It is better to clearly and concretely say “This work is important to do first” instead of “We need to do this work first.” The wording “if” relaxes, unlike “From now on, I ...”.
    Use less introductory words. Cross out the words “actually”, “honestly” and “actually” from your vocabulary. They do not contain any information and are perceived as restrictions or parasitic words.
    Avoid the word "must." Use the alternatives to it “I advise you”, “I ask you”, “I recommend you” and “I will be grateful to you” - these phrases sound more friendly, and sometimes they perform a miracle.
    Ask open-ended questions. Do not ask alternative questions that can only be answered with “yes” or “no.” It’s better to start the question with “when”, “how much”, “how”: “When can you answer me?” Is much better than “Can you answer me” - this is how you demonstrate your positive expectation, to which you are ready to receive a detailed answer.
    Do not use expressions that program diseases: “something is eating me”, “I’m not digesting”, “a lot of blood has spoiled me”, “is fed up”, “they drove me to death”. These destroyers in your active speech are unfavorable.
    Use more “you” and “we” in your speech, instead of a permanent “I”. If you speak in the first person all the time, then you put yourself and your actions in the foreground. In a conversation, it is important to focus on the person you are talking to, too. "Now we will figure it out together" has more than "Now I will explain it to you."
    Do not use the words-enemies of specifics: “never”, “everyone”, “all”, “always”, “somewhere” and “in the area”. Generalizations create a negative present and limit opportunities in the future. “You are late all the time” says only about indignation, and not about the concrete remark “You are late the third day”.


Correcting your speech or leaving it as is is always a personal decision. And, when they begin to listen to you and follow your recommendations, you will definitely be satisfied with the result. The principles for speaking convincingly are simple. The main thing is to give a positive direction to your speech and think before you say your favorite phrase.